Wow. Take a minute and read that through again!
This quote stopped me in my tracks today.
We all crave that sense of fulfillment. We all have some goal we are trying to obtain in life-whether it be personal, career based, spiritual…something we are striving for and feel our “life will be complete” and we will have “true happiness” WHEN…..”this” happens.
What is it for you?
I remember back in college, constantly having this thought in my mind. Day after day hoping and grasping for more. I told myself:
WHEN I got married…I’d be happy.
Once I got married, it became…
WHEN I had kids…I’d be happy.
Now, I find myself married AND I have kids and I’m saying, WHEN we get through our last deployment and my hubby retires from the Navy…THEN things will be better because we will finally be together. See how I threw that justification in there? “because we will be together?” Somehow, that makes it seem better…right???
You know the problem with living a life full of “when’s?”
There will always be another “when.” Sadly, they never run out.
So, I ask myself, “is Joyce right?”
Can it really be as simple as just finding out WHO we are and being true to that? Is something as basic as that the real key to happiness?
It seems like one of those “too obvious to be true” type of answers. I’m pondering this thought as I write and it really DOES make sense.
We choose our own happiness. We can’t rely on other people or outward situations to determine our life. It’s too unpredictable and too temporary. We need something dependable…OURSELF.
Since I’ve started blogging earlier this year, I have really been striving to “find myself” and “who I am” as I progress through the timeline of my aging life. You can find several posts I’ve written about that. Here is one to get you started: Who Am I… Meditating on My Life Outside of Motherhood.
As I read through a few of them…I find one concept in particular to be consistent.
Physically: I’ve talked about loving my body as it changes from before having a baby, to having babies, to being a 35-year-old mom…and EMBRACING it ALL! Shhhh! A Secret Just for Moms
Spiritually: I’ve talked about finding strength and confidence through Christ to move past my previous regrets and doubts about myself. Free to Be Me.
Emotionally: I got really personal when I wrote about finding who I am on the inside and beyond the physical me. Beyond the Surface: Looking Deeply into Myself
Can you believe I didn’t even realize until now, that so many of the thoughts I express in my blog have to do with finding happiness within ourselves?
WOW! No wonder Joyce’s quote stung me so hard when I stumbled upon it in her devotional book this morning! I’ve said before how I believe God speaks to us and when He says the same thing more than once, it’s really time to listen! Well, I feel the lightbulb turning on in my head right now! ha God has been trying to tell me to accept myself and to embrace the REAL me. THIS is how to find fulfillment!
Once we commit to a life where we are just ourself and not striving to impress others or be someone they want us to be, we can focus on just enjoying life and the people around us. We can actually LIVE freely with no chains holding us back from true happiness! –Adventures of a Busy Mom
As a testimony to this, I was just telling my family the other day how I’m the happiest I’ve ever been in my life. Is this a coincidence? I don’t think so! I’m being ME and happiness has been the result!
What are your thoughts?
If you have read any of the posts I mentioned earlier (and I highly encourage you to do so), which one spoke the most to you? Why do you think that is?
Do you feel like you are struggling with finding your inner happiness? What have you done to improve this? Has it worked?
Is there an area you would like for me to spend more time talking about? I’d love to hear from you and try to tailor my next post to fit your needs!
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