Rush, rush. Hurry, hurry.
As a busy mom of 2 kids, I used to feel we were constantly running from one place to another with hardly a moment to catch our breath in between.
I felt, if we weren’t heading home FROM something, we were heading out the door TO something.
I found myself asking, “why do I feel so busy?”
I decided, for the benefit of my family, I needed to make some changes. I started out by eliminating A LOT of our extra responsibilities and obligations. I wanted more time with my kids and some much-needed time for myself. We needed to put family as #1.
In an effort to accomplish this, I’ve had to learn to say “no” more often-even when I don’t want to. It can be hard sometimes. I see my friends going on exciting hikes I know I would enjoy. There are SO MANY fun activities for the kids to do on the island too. Not to mention all of the beaches and other activities I would like for us to experience while we live in Hawaii.
I used to feel guilty and selfish for saying “no.” But, I’ve had to change my perspective on it as I’m not saying “no” but, rather I’m saying “yes” to family time. Family time which is my biggest priority in this season of my life.
We’ve got it down to just two busy days a week-basketball nights. Luckily, the kids have practice on the same nights and it’s back to back. The other nights, we can spend at home together.
Now that we have more time at home, I’m trying to do better about letting myself “relax.” I have a tendency to want to be cleaning something. The messy closet or the drawer that needs organized is annoyingly always in the back of my mind. I’m learning to just “let it be” and just enjoy being at home. I need to remind myself I don’t need to be constantly busy…it’s okay to sit and read a book while the kids play together.
I need to release myself from the “mom guilt” that my kids aren’t in several activities. In fact, I am actually proud of my decision to make “home time” more of a priority. My kids have time to use their imaginations and play together and I actually am finding that I have more time to myself this way!
I’m also finding, since we are having more “free time,” we are having more of a desire to spend time together. Our need for personal time is being satisfied so we are craving time together more now. Before, we were surrounded by other people and busy with activities. When we got home, we wanted our own space to do our own thing. We have time for our sit down family meals together and still do our weekly game night and movie nights.You can read about those here: Benefits of Family Game Night.
As we made this family change, we also eliminated cable from our house. It’s been almost 3 months now and we don’t miss it at all. You can read about that process here: How I Cut Cable and Internet…and Lived to Tell About It.
When we want to watch TV, we log into Netflix using my cell-phone hotspot and we choose a show to watch. No wasted time TV surfing or worrying about DVR’ing certain shows. I find we are more choosy about what we watch this way and we tend to watch way less tv. This opens up more time for other things…like…PLAYING! It’s been great.
I feel I am more patient with the kids. I’m willing to give them more of my time because I feel I am getting more time for ME to do ME things.
I don’t have to guard my time so tightly anymore. It’s a calming feeling to reach this point! I wish I had found this earlier in life. But, I’ll take it now for sure!
Overall, I am so happy with the changes we have made.
As you know, I’m still a VERY busy momma with several hiking trips a week, spin class, DIY projects, baking, time with God…I’m just happy and blessed I have found a system that is working SO WELL for us. It may not be everyone’s choice. But, it’s proven to work so well for us in this season.
I can feel my family growing closer which makes my heart SO HAPPY!
Friends, I encourage you to take a look at your own family schedule.
Do you feel you are overdoing it?
What things could you eliminate which would prevent you from feeling over-busy?
It doesn’t have to be big things. Start with something simple. I’m sure, once you see the positive impact it can have on your family, you will feel a sense of relief!
If you are wanting to find some ways to spend more time together as part of your change, here are some suggestions: 10 Ways to Sneak in More Family Time
How do YOU make more time for your family? What things have you eliminated to do so?